Meditation

Meditation

If we continue to observe our mind over some time, we notice that it’s not always distracted and busy. For all of us, there are times when our minds become concentrated, sharp and clear. Perhaps we are doing a cross-word puzzle, playing a video game, reading a mystery story, cleaning the house or cooking. For some, it’s the simple tasks that engage us in ways that allow our mind to be composed and focused; for others, it’s complex problem solving.

Many times, however, the needs of others are what bring us to a state of sharp concentration. Whether it’s because we feel very secure with those we’re with or because we are functioning under conditions of extreme crisis, we find that in this state of intense concentration helpful insights arise on their own, as a function of our one-pointedness. In these experiences we meet a resource of remarkable potential. While we may be frustrated in not having access to it all the time, these experiences lead us to inquire whether there might be something we could do more regularly and formally to quiet the mind, strengthen its concentration, make available the deeper insights that often result, and bring them into closer attunement with the empathy and compassion of our heart. How immeasurably this might enhance our ability to help others.

Traditionally, one such way to begin this investigation is through meditation, systematically observing the mind itself and becoming more familiar with the ways in which we are denied the experience of full concentration. When we do this, with even a simple exercise like focusing our attention on our breath or on a candle flame, we begin to see that there is a continuous stream of thoughts going on all the time. Meditation may be frustrating if we think we can stop this process right away. We can’t. But by penetrating and observing it, we can free ourselves from being carried away by our thoughts.

Our thoughts are always happening. Much like leaves floating down a stream or clouds crossing the sky, they just keep coming. They arise in the form of sensations, feelings, memories, anticipations, and speculations. And they are all constantly calling for attention: Think of me.” “Notice me.” “Attend to me.” As each thought passes, either we attend to it or we don’t. While we can’t stop the thoughts themselves, we can stop our awareness from being snared by each one. If you are standing by a river and a leaf floats by, you have your choice of following the leaf with your eye or keeping your attention fixed in front of you. The leaf floats out of your line of vision. Another leaf enters… and floats by.

But as we stand on the bank of the river and the leaves float by, there is no confusion as to whether or not we are the leaves. Similarly, it turns out that there is a place in our minds from which we can watch our own mental images go by. We aren’t our thoughts any more than we are the leaves.

If we imagine that our mind is like the blue sky, and that across it pass thoughts as clouds, we can get a feel for that part of it which is other than our thoughts. The sky is always present; it contains the clouds and yet is not contained by them. So with our awareness. It is present and encompasses all our thoughts, feelings, and sensations; yet it is not the same as them. To recognize and acknowledge this awareness, with its spacious, peaceful quality, is to find a very useful resource within. We see that we need not identify with each thought just because it happens to occur. We can remain quiet and choose which thought we wish to attend to. And we can remain aware behind all these thoughts, in a state that offers an entirely new level of openness and insight.

Wes Pinkston,

Encinitas Life/Business Coach ❤️

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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston: Adia Dawn Testimonial

Ten minutes into my first call with Wes I knew that I needed to work with him. I was in the process of starting my own coaching and consulting business. What really stood out to me was that he spoke with such confidence and intention. His energy was magnetic and there was this natural way of connecting in a short time. Wes is a truly genuine soul.

His perspective and awareness of spirituality have been such a blessing in my life. He does an amazing job of incorporating life and business coaching into a seamless guidance toward higher consciousness and greater overall life satisfaction.

I highly recommended Wes to anyone who is looking to expand their awareness of life and business. He will guide you, but also doesn't really DO anything. It's fascinating how he just helps lay the groundwork that allows you to find your path. Highly recommended!

Adia Dawn,

Austin, Texas


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Have a wonderful week everyone, keep sending me your success stories, I love hearing them.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston - Actualizing your highest potential

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Wes Pinkston is an Award-Winning Life Coach in Encinitas, CA. At the age of 29, a profound inner transformation radically changed the course of his life. He is now devoted to understanding, integrating and deepening that transformation, which has marked the beginning of an intense inward journey.

As a guide, Wes assists others in entering into an enhanced awareness of self and environment. This altered perception serves as a gateway, which if entered, facilitates a crucial transformation. The outcome of this is directed by the uniqueness of the individual and their willingness to pursue whatever unfolds.

Wes assists with the expansion of his client's personal potential, leading to the achievement of greater fulfillment in their life. With his guidance and support, the client is able to access and walk their true path.

His techniques create an enabling foundation which supports a self-sustaining guidance and growth mechanism. Thus he continually supports self-empowerment. Wes emphasizes the development and necessity of a clear connection to body awareness. The physical body is a resource uniquely tuned to act as a vehicle for the development of personal power – the force that drives and guides one to manifest a life with purpose and meaning.

Since the inception of his Life Coaching practice in Encinitas, he has accumulated over 2,000 hours of one-on-one coaching and has become one of the most recognized, respected and reputable life coaches in the city.


The original audio was recorded on the Nothing To Lose Podcast and can be found here: https://anchor.fm/nothing-to-lose/epi... Thank you for the interview Tony :)


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Love,

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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston: Catherine Alexandra Testimonial

I came across Wes by chance. I wasn’t looking for a life coach but I was seriously looking at therapy. I was not necessarily in a life crisis but I have just been generally unhappy. Everything in my life has been going well and I have no real reason to be unhappy yet I was. I cannot reiterate this enough, I was falling into a major depression with no logical reason why and that’s when I came across Wes.

Wes was able to give me insight into my life that I never knew I needed. It turns out that I had the key to happiness the entire time, I just needed someone like Wes to help me through it. Wes has given me the tools I need to get through my day and the encouragement to continue to do so everyday.

He has drastically changed the way I look at things. I wake up everyday with more energy then I did before and more appreciation for my life. The people around me have noticed the impact and it’s made my relationships better.

If you are struggling for whatever reason, I cannot recommend Wes enough. Whether you need help figuring out your goals or developing a business plan or simply just need to find true happiness...he is the guy.

Don’t be like me and wait until you are minutes from a full blown depressive episode. Everyday has enormous potential and I can’t believe I wasted so much time before I found Wes. I won’t get that time back but I can make sure each new day gets 100% of the attention and presence it deserves. I am ready to make the most of my life and I hope that others find the help they need as well. Thank you Wes.

Catherine Alexandra

San Diego, CA


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Have a wonderful week everyone, keep sending me your success stories, I love hearing them.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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Intuition

One of the most common questions I’m asked is “what is intuition and how does it work?”

This is one of the most difficult and controversial questions for many reasons that I will get into…

It appears to me that intuition is a feeling into things. In a way “it” guides us to answers and seems to leave no trail. In other words, we arrive at an answer without a formal explanation. You have it, but you haven’t the argument for it. Its power seems to reside in its truthfulness more than anything else.

The power of intuition lies in its ability to express truth

We first derive a notion of the essence of intuition in the obscure oriental doctrines of taoism which seems to point towards a direct experience of the nature of things, also known as intuition in the occidental mind.

Being in the Tao, or the flow of nature, seems to be the ability to sense the constraints and opportunities in the moment and act through it.

Often, when the topic of Intuition is brought up it’s main descriptions are commonly expressed as

1) Vague

2) Feminine

3) Unreliable

Yet, a closer look at our lives on a daily basis will illustrate quite the opposite.

We use words like “hunch” which also imply a sort of feeling into things and making a decision, although many of us “believe” we are acting logically, our actions, if studied carefully, show quite the contrary in many situations.

What is the threshold of having enough data to make a decision? There is always a moment when you wrap it up and move forward, there is no rule book for needing this amount of info before making a decision, it’s always a hunch or intuitively arrived at.

Even though there is this bias towards rationalism which has permeated through our culture for the last couple hundred years our experience with reality shows a different experience.

In fact, in the felt domain of immediate experience called “living,” intuition is how most of us, even the most self defined as “non-intuitional” are operating. Intuition is a kind of field processing of both the foreground and the background of experience, it’s a gestalt understanding that is subliminal and that leads the whole organism through an invisible set of doors, towards the maximizing of some sort of a goal.

When we approach the phenomena of intuition with rationalistic and reductionary tools the result is similar to a sieve through water, always exceeding one’s grasp. The correct approach to this shy and delicate magic known as intuition is to understand it with the tools of night logic, known as dream.

Dreams do not follow the forward and linear movement that our nervous system seems to create during the day. In the attempt to understand dream (feminine night logic) with the tools of the rationalistic and masculine tools is to miss the point and remain unsatisfied with the end result. You must change your approach, and meet the magic of intuition where it wants rather than attempting to fit it into a nice and neatly organized rational and reductionistic box. With this approach, we flatten out the most exciting and mysterious aspects of life, and we wonder where all the magic in our life has gone, we’ve neglected it with our logical and rational tools, but not too worry, her presence is always one thought away and she is quite patient…

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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Sacrifice

Delaying gratification in today's world seems like a herculean task. At several points throughout the day you are faced with micro decisions of impulsivity or discipline. One of the first questions to ask yourself is Why should I consider delaying gratification?

This is a great question, and it deserves some serious attention since your future is riding on it.

Well it's quite simple on the surface, If you want to make things better in the future you make sacrifices today. You already know this, for instance if you want to become healthier it would be wise to choose a fruit or vegetable for lunch rather than fast food junk. The healthier food choice is for your future self that does not exist now, but will come into manifestation if the proper sacrifice is made consistently.   

Since we became self conscious we made a startling discovery... the FUTURE. The future is an incredible place filled with infinite possibilities of what you could become. Like any phenomena, there is always another side, the discovery of the future also holds the realization of your boundaries, limits and inescapable mortality. 

One question is... Are you willing to sacrifice your current self for your future self? Assuming you have set your ideals up properly and are aiming at a higher state than you currently reside, the answer is YES, yes you are willing, for that is the only way to make our difficult existence worthwhile. But here is one of the main reasons why you won't make the sacrifice, you don't have the ability to visualize a future ideal enough to get you to act and move toward it. You would rather take an actual and immediate treat at this very moment than two or more imaginary treats in the future.

Is sacrifice easy? No, it's one of the hardest things to do, which is why so few do it. Few are able to imagine a better future, put the steps together and actualize them day to day choice by choice, always making the choice for the future self rather than the immediate gratification of the current self today.

This is where discipline comes in, in fact discipline is wanting to do something now, but instead you forestall the immediate gratification and instead focus your resources on something you feel will bear fruit in the medium to long range future. Discipline is the ability to make consistent sacrifices day in and day out. By making today a little less impulsive you increase the likelihood of making tomorrow more secure and productive. This can be a choice you make for yourself or for your children. To use an example from my adolescence, most middle school kids have a difficult time forecasting and making a plan for the future. Instead, children are mainly focused on immediate gratification and led by impulsivity. My parents made a sacrifice for me and my future, they decided to remove me from a school district that was in the decline and send me to a private school that would set me up for a brighter future. To this day I thank them and I'm incredibly grateful, but I remember at the time I did not have the ability to see the future potential of what the change offered, instead I was focused on my current friends and the removal of the structure I had set up.

Sacrifice for the sake of sacrificing won't stick, it needs to be aimed at a goal or an ideal. This is where the imagination and inner vision is extremely important, WHAT IS IT YOU WANT EXACTLY? To begin with it needs to be obtainable. Not too easy where little to no effort is needed but also not to extreme where the chance of failure is too high. Look at your daily routine, how much television you watch, what you eat and drink throughout the day consistently, where should you start? You are aware of 5, 10, 15, 20 things that you are doing each day that you shouldn't be. Pick one, the sacrifice will pay off, whether it's financial, nutritional, relationship based.

If you have any questions or would like to work one-on-one feel free to email me at wespinkston@gmail.com, have a wonderful week everyone.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach 


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Mastering Your Day

It’s another Monday morning… Exciting huh? How did you spend your weekend? What choices did you make? Are you an individual that enjoys the weekends but merely survives the week days?

A model that may be of use to you is simply viewing your life in single day chunks. Today you will be presented with several opportunities and choices, whether you are conscious of them or not. The choices you make will increase the chances that the same choice will be made tomorrow. If that same choice is made tomorrow then we most likely have a habit that is forming and burying into our daily program like a parasite. SO be veryyyyy careful and conscious about what you are doing, EVERY SECOND of EVERY Day for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE…

Some of my client’s in the beginning mention that being aware of every thought throughout the day is hard work, my response… ABSOLUTELY.

Some of the choices you will be presented with today are your food choices, your reactions in relation to external stimulation, what you do with your free time, the activities you indulge in before bed, the amount of water you drink, coffee you consume, the way you lift up or knock down the one’s around you based on your words and many others…

Do you go to work the same direction every day? Say the same thing to your spouse, eat the same breakfast, listen to the same music on the way to the office, enter the office the same way and say hi to the same people with the same statement. Is the only thing different about this day your outfit, making a selection of a few color combinations that are beginning to be a nuisance. Are you sitting at your desk at this moment thinking there has to be more… you don’t know how you know there is more but you KNOW, but have no idea how to get THERE.

Well you are right, there is more, more than you could even wrap your mind around, but do you have the courage and commitment to see if through. Do you think it’d be easy work to transform your life? This path will take ALL OF YOU at ALL TIMES. This has nothing to do with reading a self-help book for 10-minutes a week and occasionally ordering a salad in between the beers you are consuming.

I’m unable to go into all the details in one post, without the context of your personal situation I can only speak vaguely and leave it up to you to fill in the details.

I’d like to give you an assignment… I’d like you to write down on a word doc or on a piece of paper what you want out of this incredible opportunity and life you’ve been handed, do it now, write down exactly what you want.

Feel free to send it to me if you’d like, send it here: WesPinkston@gmail.com

Most of you won’t do that assignment but oh well, next thing I’d like you to do is to write down all your choices you make today. Consider this self-observation, rather than sleep walking through your day be aware of what you are doing and the choices you are making. Breaking the attachment with the act of doing and observing the do’er and the doing from an awareness outside both. Since most of us are highly habitual you will notice how difficult doing anything novel and different is. To do something new, to break a habitual daily pattern is your will, and unless it is used often like a muscle it will atrophy and be useless over time.

By using your power of observation and will you can master your day. This is all you need to do, master your 24 hours, every decision, ever thought, every action. If you can master your day, and do this day-in and day-out consistently your life will begin to change. You can never go back though to the lazy days though, the soft routine days of sleep walking. If you are to begin, this needs to maintained forever, full focus and concentration. This is why 987 out of 1,000 won’t continue down this path. It’s not a secret path, it’s not occult or esoteric, it’s right here in front of you, in plain day-light. This is the answer to the scratch within you that you can never seem to itch.

More Money? Nope, that won’t scratch it. A Beautiful Girlfriend/Boyfriend? Nope, that won’t scratch it. A New Car? House? Traveling? A Book? Nope, Nope, Nope, Nope.

It’s YOU. Stop delaying your work.

For any change to occur you need to stay with it forever, there is no stopping, there is no destination. Increasing your intelligence is never complete, maintaining your body is never complete, you need to do it every day, FOREVER.

This is THE SECRET

Being 100% responsible for every choice and action you take for the rest of your life. It makes no difference which mind liberation and self transformation school you check in to from the oriental to the occidental, the secret is hard word every day and every second.

Most of us are pulled around by our socially created expectations and animalistic desires all day. We choose food based on pleasure rather than consuming nutritious food because our stomach let’s us know it’s time. We are on our phones aimlessly consuming content without any courage to create our own. We are controlled by our sexual desires and have no idea on how to cool that part of us off. We have surface level conversations and complain about this and that, a fully disempowered day and existence.

Did you think you needed a Teacher? A Guru?

Nope! That’s just another excuse we create so that we don’t have to make a move, so we can stay in the soft and comfortable boring zone. Listen to the way you speak to yourself, is it empowered direction or disempowered retreat talk. Listen! You are in the position you are in because of you, no one else, and it’s up to you to get yourself out. Do not focus on the external environment, that’s utterly pointless. It’s an inner battle you have been putting off, it’s ALL in YOUR MIND.

YOU Are The Guru AND The Student

You have far more power than you realized, we just don’t put it to use. Your power is in your reaction to each situation, your breathing at every moment, the expectations you hold yourself to that YOU created rather than blindly excepted based on your upbringing and culture, your understanding of language, of balancing the masculine and the feminine qualities about you, in every conscious food and water choice, in becoming ALL YOU ARE CAPABLE OF.

You have had the power all along, you just never realized it… your external environment is directing your life rather than you setting your own course.

Are you going to start charting your own course today?

If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

Have a wonderful week everyone, keep sending me your success stories, I love hearing them.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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We Are All Greater Artists Than We Realize (Neuro-Relativity)

Who is the Master who makes the grass green?

– Dogen Zenji, 18th Century Zen Master

Dogen would ask all trainees this simple question… “Who is the Master who makes the grass green?”

The answer is as close as our visual cortex…

YOU!

Let me explain…

Although it may seem difficult to comprehend, we receive somewhere in the neighborhood of a billion signals every minute (this number seems to be growing higher and higher every year, just know it’s A LOT). Most of us have difficulty keeping track of more than three things at a time and there have been studies that show the average person loses their focus ten times a minute. (Hey! Pay Attention!) Let me repeat, you receive over a BILLION signals every minute, to consciously keep track of that many pieces of information would be pure chaos. In order to create order and make sense of the chaotic onslaught of billions of bits of information we use an amazing tool that reads all the other tools of our organism-as-a-whole. This tool is our nervous system, which is processing all the information being sent to us.

Every second of every day your eyes are being sent information, your ears, your skin, your nose etc. Just because the voice in your head may be focused on what you are going to say to the beautiful guy/girl in class, does not mean the rest of your organism isn’t taking care of (processing) everything else, to be honest I wouldn’t want to be in charge of my breathing, bathroom breaks, food digestion, blood circulation, I’d probably forget all too often and then die, so it’s best it’s left to a more reliable companion, this companion, is your nervous system.

You are not made up of a whole bunch of pieces like Frankenstein, going forward, or at least for this blog post, you need to view yourself as one organism, the organism-as-a-whole, not the sum of a bunch of parts, it’s ALL ONE THING. Every evaluation that is being made is an evaluation as a whole, what the voice in your brain thinks it’s controlling is merely a false dichotomy,

For an exercise, tell yourself you know the difference between a movie and real life. The movie is composed of actors, actresses, directors, producers, lights, camera, you get it…. Now go see a scary movie in your local theatre that are so popular. Tell yourself it’s just a movie and “not real” and see if you don’t grab the chair, flinch, get shortness of breath, look away… What your voice in your head thinks it controls is an illusion, your body will still get tense in the theatre even though you tell yourself in your head “It’s just a movie…. it’s just a movie…..”

EVERY EVALUATION YOU MAKE IS AN EVALUATION OF YOUR ENTIRE NERVOUS SYSTEM.

Our nervous system’s role is to receive, transmit and integrate signals and messages. While your conscious attention is focused on the act of reading these words, your nervous system is taking care of your blood flow, breathing, food digestion, filtering out harmful bacteria etc. The nervous system to this day appears to be a collection of many interlocking systems such as the immunological system, the endocrine system, the neuro-muscular system and so forth. All of these systems are in the process of computation, it’s a synergetic process on many levels and the messages are being sent up to the brain.

Your brain, the amazing bio-computer composed of One-Hundred Billion Neurons, receives the information from your nervous system and constructs a model of the world, which is then projected out. This model of the world, grid, reality tunnel, map, whatever term you’d like to use, is not objective reality, it’s your own personalized model/map that is being projected outwards. Read that last part again. The processing speed of your nervous system is so fast that we don’t notice it, and often never come to the realization that everything we come in contact with is not reality but our interpretation of reality.

The Map is NOT the Territory, meaning the model of the world your brain is creating from the signals it’s receiving from your nervous system, is not objective reality, but completely subjective. Or as Alan Wattsbeautifully stated “The Menu is NOT the Meal.” Everyone is using a different map to orient themselves around the environment, it’s no surprise why we have such difficulty communicating with one another and most of us feel misunderstood.

We are all greater artists than we realize

YOU are the master that makes the grass green, the green is not outside you, it’s in you, your visual cortex registers green from the environment, it does not exist outside “in the grass.”

Now that you know you are creating a model of the world and not viewing it from a completely objective lens, Click Here to read the next post using metaphors to illustrate how your mind works and how these maps we all create are acted out on a daily basis.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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The Power of Questions

As I was driving back to Encinitas (North County San Diego) from Beverly Hills this past weekend, I saw a familiar sign on the freeway, The "55." I quickly processed the information and decided to let my intuition take me down the 55 freeway to my former college Chapman University. Campus was only a few miles from my route so I figured I'd stop by, mainly to visit the football team that I was an integral part of from 2005 through 2008.

My former Head Coach, Bob Owens (Chapman University, Orange, CA.)

My former Head Coach, Bob Owens (Chapman University, Orange, CA.)

My strong intuition didn't mislead me, I stopped by the coaching offices and connected on a much deeper level with all my former coaches than all the years prior, combined. It was these moments that I've come to cherish more than anything, but why have these deeply connected moments and conversations been happening at an increasing rate...

You can only connect with others as deeply as you have connected with yourself.

Speaking to my Alma Mater, The Chapman University Football Team

Speaking to my Alma Mater, The Chapman University Football Team

These deep connections have always been there, in every moment, I just didn't have the vision to realize it and bring it out. As I was meditating that night, after speaking to 100 current players, coaches and staff, I came to the realization my perception and role in each conversation had shifted from the one giving the answers and waiting from my turn to speak, to the one deeply interested in them and their life's experiences. I am far more fascinated with interviewing others than talking to others about myself.

What are they seeing, feeling, sensing. What does their daily routine consist of, how do they prioritize their events for the day, what books and mentors completely shifted their perception of life, how exactly did this shift occur? How do you handle transitions, whether it's job or relationships...

If we can forget about our own selfish stance in the discussion, and become enamored by their life experiences, we can coax out golden knowledge nuggets that even they weren't aware of. The power of strategic and timely questions can create profound and unforgettable connections that we all deeply yearn for.

Whether it is an upper class-man who is playing your position in football, or a high level CEO that you'd like to emulate, extracting their process and actions that get the results are just a few conscious questions away. Put the other individual in the spotlight and break down their key pivotal moments and approaches to life, by learning from their experiences we can save ourselves a lot of time, energy and unwarranted stress.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

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Wes Pinkston - Dissolving Barriers


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The Dance between Patience and Mindful Business

In today's business culture, common words that are thrown around are "Grinding," "Hustle," "Workaholic," "Do, Do, Do," "More! More! More!." The business culture I was deeply embedded in and the values it upheld and what I directly came in contact with based on my own immediate feelings, always seemed out of harmony. We are quickly handed the industry rhetoric as to how things are, the proverbial "blueprint for success." Follow this concept, this model, and you will achieve the reward. We quickly hit the ground running because we have the consistent set of waves coming in known as bills, debt, and so on. There is no time for patience, for reflection, I need to go DO something or the industry will leave me in the dust, I will lose to the competition, I won't be able to pay my bills or maintain MY lifestyle.

Take a deep breath... the momentum and tension builds and builds until it works against us completely.

In the same way we are handed a concept of "how it is" in business, the same goes for life. What I failed to realize, and many others, is the mere fact that it is simply THEIR concept as to how life or the industry is, just one concept of seemingly infinite. Once we believe what we are told as to "how it is" then we use such a small portion of our unique faculty and creativity because there is a small space of wiggle room within the confining walls of "their concept and models for what THEY believe success is" and how to achieve it. Learn what you'd like from mentors, teachers etc and then forget it all, throw it away, the information and technologies available now didn't exists back then when they developed their models and concepts, and most importantly it was contoured to fit their unique faculty, not yours.

Manifest your own concepts and models that work within the harmony of YOU and the unique faculty you have at your disposal.

Before you begin in an industry, it is highly beneficial to first look at it from a birds eye view as a "Game." By game I mean it adheres to rules, roles, and boundaries. Regardless of industry, everything operates within a system of order, some more complicated than others. The one that truly understands this, does not view business as competitive, rather they view it as collaborative. The Male Dominator Complex influenced by greed and fear that many in the business world are working off of is not worth any amount of material gain compared to what it costs you in the end.

The Rules and Boundaries of the game you are entering into are rather simple concepts, your Role in the game is what I'd like to dive deeper into...

Until you clearly figure out what your role is, your strengths and what you enjoy, how this "work" fits within your ideal day, which hopefully you have drawn out, you'll just inherit someone else's concept or model for success, that was completely molded to fit their strengths and their lifestyle. You'll quickly find yourself in situations, like I did, where you are "forcing" or "grinding" yourself to work in ways that are out of touch of your natural rhythm rather than shaping your work day around your strengths and special faculty we all have. 

Speaking from my own experience, I never reflected and figured out what I was truly good at, what I enjoyed, in other words I didn't feel I really had a purpose, I just floated from job to job as a means to cover my monthly expenses and what would make me the most money. True financial freedom is not achieved by thinking about achieving financial freedom. There is a reason you are here, a purpose, you are not an accident, you are present because you need to be. You have a skill set that nobody has ever had in the history of man, what are your skills? Does the job you currently have use these skills? What does your dream day look like? How does your job or business fit within that perfect day?

Rather than speaking about being uphappy, disliking aspects of ourselves or phenomena like our job/relationships etc., write down what your perfect day looks like and what you do like. This is the first step in making it a reality, begin to visualize it and speak about it intelligently.

If one takes a step back and clearly views the process of nature, which we are an integral part of, it is quite clear that our immediate experience is becoming more and more complex, otherwise known as novelty. Nature produces higher systems of order and complexification to produce even higher states of order and complexification. Since this is the case, where our time and energy is spent is critical to a healthy experience. With complexity taking place faster and faster, we need to be highly fluid, adaptable and organized. We can't get stuck within models and concepts that were formulated based on conditions that were far different from the present. As we can take a step out of the infinite games we partake in daily, our business, our relationships, all phenomena, and reflect, we can navigate through the ever changing complexifying landscape with greater ease. One of the most productive activities is non activity, let the dust settle where we have been stopping around in all week to see our path more clearly and gracefully. 

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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Ego Yoga

For many reading this, including myself, the most practiced yoga in the West is Ego Yoga. If I may take a partisan stance on all yogas, from my experience it is by far the most difficult. Before I begin let's define yoga, it simply means "Union." The list of Yoga's are infinite so there is no need to list them. Yoga is much more vast than handstands and body contortion, although that is the most highly publicized.

You and I, we chose Ego yoga, no one hypnotized, tricked or forced us to go down this path, we did it, it was our own karma. Karma is highly misused, it simply means "action."

What is the Ego?

Ego is simply Your Character Structure, who you THINK you are. Your likes, your dislikes, your story, your past, your friends, your family, your job, your strengths, your weaknesses, your misfortunes, and the list is infinite. Almost everyone here in the West only views this world that they feel they came into, without their approval, as this detached limited character with little to no support.

I, a stranger and afraid
In a world I never made.

This character, (Insert Your Name Here), is merely a thought. Think about that statement this week, the image of yourself, as to who you think you are is merely a thought, albeit a constant thought you decide to keep in your head nearly every moment. Imagine this character, your name and life story, as a suit in your closet. Each night when we fall into the dream state while sleeping we forget all about this character we have made ourselves to be, and when we rise we walk to our closet and put on this suit of my likes, my fears, my righteousness, my problems every single morning. We have cut ourselves off from the world we were born out of, that we belong to, we did not come into it. That is why we have some of the most difficult feelings and emotions available as we progress along this path of Ego Yoga, we have completely removed ourselves and have lost touch with our support, our home, where we belong, we are fighting and competing against ourselves every single day and the fight gets very tiring, our arms, our entire body and our mind become weary and almost depleted. 

During Ego Yoga we progressively cut ourselves off from the seemingly "outside world" and we begin to feel alienated. We can not escape this alienated present moment, the eternal present where we never feel we belong, I can't catch a break, everyone is against me, I work too hard to be in this position, the infinite self-righteous internal chatter. This disconnected "now" that you find yourself in, is the true birth place for responsibility. Oddly enough this shows you are making progress, although I had moments along my path where all enthusiasm for life had almost run completely dry.

I've felt and experienced the humbling path of ego yoga, I see my own immediate family along their paths of ego yoga, I see my friends and many of my clients, this is the most highly practiced path here in the West and it all leads to the same place, union with everything, that you are deeply part of, whether you want to be or not ;) Be patient and conscious, observe, let life live through you rather than always trying to go out and live life, as you become more sensitive you will realize you are fully supported and you are growing each and every moment. Life, your immediate experience, is energy. Energy is vibration, in another term, contrast. Everything is wiggling, sometimes the wiggle doesn't feel as you'd like it to, but that feeling comes from the egoic self-righteous stance of how you feel life should cater and suit your character's needs. Life can't be controlled, but our Ego Yoga path will teach us that directly. You are in class, and we should find grace in the curriculum.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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The Art of Direct Experience

As I've allowed my curiosity to lead me in directions and to ideas I never knew existed, I've been trying to gather my thoughts on how I can put the information I've gathered in a simple and somewhat rational sequence that some may benefit from and can put to use in their daily experience. Nothing is more important than YOUR own experience, your life, what is taking place in the here and now. Many of us trip over memories from our past or invite the uncertain future, and it is safe to say many of us have gone a very long time without an immediate experience of any kind.

Before I begin on the first of many installments I plan to post, I'd like us to attempt to unlearn and train ourselves in a new way regarding the method in which we gather information and form concepts. We are either being conditioned to think a certain way based on someone else's vastly different experience OR we are fully conscious and creating our own way of thinking and deciphering the information we are receiving without anyone telling us "This Is How It Is." From a very young age, as we become more and more conscious (aware) we are playing many roles. The most consistent of these roles is "The Child of Parents X and Y." We come into consciousness with an enthusiasm for life that is natural to our being and truly in rhythm with who we are. As the years go on we begin to take information on authority not just from our parents but also teachers, friends, industry professionals and the media. Like any concept or method, unless you are aware of it you can't see it, like a fish in water has no concept of being in water, it just is the way it is. One quickly begins to realize that they are turning into their parents, the conditioning/parenting/learning that takes place is never done voluntary, we are punished if we don't "see" it our parents way. The parent thinks they know best so they say this is the way it is, since they don't know better and can only teach what they were taught, what they are really saying is this is my belief system that I think is true and if you act in accordance with what I believe I will grade you as "Good" or "Bad." We quickly begin acting, analyzing, evaluating not with what we directly experience but through the lens of our belief system that is conditioned into us.

It is difficult to reduce such a vast topic of immediate experience into a short introductory post but my future posts will be under specific categories. For them to be truly absorbed and understood they all have their rightful place in the greater whole. If I can leave you with a "tip" going forward to bring into your daily experience that has greatly helped myself, it'd be to take on the childlike enthusiasm/curiosity we were born with and question everything, ask yourself the question "How do I feel?" As you begin to question and you become more aware, what you begin to seek starts seeking you in an act of dual happening, and you become fully empowered at each moment.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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The Art of Language

“The syntactical nature of reality, the real secret of magic, is that the world is made of words. And if you know the words that the world is made of, you can make of it whatever you wish.”

- Terence Mckenna

There is nothing more vital to one's life, one's experience, than the understanding of language. We see in words, hear in words, think in words, feel in words, EVERYTHING is language. Nothing can be achieved or manifested without words, without the ability to speak about our feelings/ideas/sensations/ intelligently. All day we swim in words, like a fish in water, many of us, like myself didn't truly realize the significance they had on my immediate experience with reality, until I was imprisoned by them. I imprisoned myself within words, but the beauty of the story is I've liberated myself with words. Until we become conscious of language and the machinery that it is, we can not use it as the transformational tool that it is, it is humanity's most prized achievement.

Like any tool, it solely depends on the user, the conscious being that "picks it up." Whether it is a pen or a paintbrush, some manifest masterpieces while others manifest more simple forms of expression. Before we use the tool that is language, it makes sense to be aware of it's power and potential, as well as consequences if used in a manner harmful to oneself or others. Any tool that has tremendous potentiality for actualizing ideas, must be used consciously.

From a very young age, we are thrown into a sea of words, swimming and treading words to stay afloat, language makes for an incredible tool, our greatest tool with nothing even close to it, but language makes for a terrible master. Don't be so TRUSTING of words, at all moments in the day, watching tv, talking to friends, listening to family members, reading articles, we are being conditioned. Until we cultivate a conscious bubble within ourselves we can rest in, that understands the machinery of language and how incredibly general it's assumptions are, we will always be told how it is, what to do, etc., the rhetoric of life. There is a world beyond words, and many of us paint over reality with a mosaic of words. Words, like any tool, can be over used, we need to know when to use words and when not too. Words remove the meaning and feelings from reality.

If I were to ask you to describe love... Listen to your words... See how poorly you are describing love. Reality is almost impossible to talk about, the feelings and emotions we feel at every given moment. You KNOW what love it, but when asked to describe it with words you find they just don't suffice. When you read and listen, when you are being conditioned by anyone, see PAST the words, and draw your own conclusions based on how you feel about the matter.

Stop tiling over reality with words, words most often than not ruin the moment, ruin the feeling, ruin the experience.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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Why Chasing Fame or Fortune Won’t Lead You to Happiness


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Avoid complexification with San Diego Life Coach Wes Pinkston

Wes Pinkston is an Entrepreneur and Transformational Business/Life Coach. At the age of 29, a profound inner transformation radically changed the course of his life. He is now devoted to understanding, integrating, and deepening that transformation, which has marked the beginning of an intense inward journey. Weaving together both Western and Eastern influences, he is able to guide his client’s through their journey in all phases of life.

What you’ll learn about in this episode:

*Wes’ background
*Why effective communication is so important not only with others but with yourself
*Having a clear vision of your ideal day & the role you play in it
*How adapting your awareness to your experience can change your life
*Why changing your viewpoint from competitive to collaborative can help you be successful
*Why you need to take accountability for both the good and the bad
*How making simple tweaks can drastically change things
*Why you need to be expressing, not suppressing
*Why you should just “be” when you are at home
*The importance of bringing back your childlike enthusiasm


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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston: Victoria Watson testimonial

Working with Wes Pinkston has been a life changing experience both personally and professionally. He has helped me to fully manifest the marketing and business ideas within my mind. His clear communication and listening has enabled me to transcend my self created limitations and helped me to approach sales with my highest potential. His ability to zoom in to specific aspects of my system and bring clarity while also maintaining a zoomed out macro level perspective has been priceless. From the discovery process to the practical execution of my ideas Wes has been with me every step of the process with a truly knowledgeable and empathetic presence.

Victoria Watson

REALTOR

Coldwell Banker Quality Properties

Los Angeles, California


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Bryan Dusseau testimonial for Wes Pinkston

"Wes is very knowledgeable, and gives off an energy that is contagious. It makes me stay in the moment and really reflect on myself." 

-Bryan Dusseau

Host of the Purpessence Podcast.


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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston: Jen Beron testimonial

"Working with Wes has been such an incredible experience. His listening and linguistic skills provided a relaxed and transparent environment to aid me in my endeavors. It's clear to see he is comfortable himself which allows me to be my authentic self in return."

Jen Beron

Real Estate Agent at The Agency

Beverly Hills, California


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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston: Greg Jacobsen testimonial


"I met Wes Pinkston on Instagram about a month or so ago, I was looking to add some spiritually minded, consciousness based people to my network. I saw Wes's profile and saw he was a life coach and instantly just had to connect. After our 45-minute consultation I knew that he was definitely somebody that I wanted to work with. He put a lot of my anxieties to rest, a lot of fears that I had by working with a coach. He let me express myself and I felt very comfortable in doing that and then from that point he addressed and outlined the ways that he could assist me in my process. Since I would like to definitely be coaching people at some point along my path in my journey as well. The month I've been working with Wes so far has definitely helped me out with that process exponentially. For me I can get a little out there sometimes and what I really like about working with Wes is that he entertains that space for me and makes me feel very comfortable being myself and then at the same time he'll make sure that we get back on track and stay focused on the task at hand. That process is so valuable for me because without working with somebody like that I can get all over the place. He really helps me ground down, get practical and take a lot of the potential I have and start to make it actual. For that I am eternally grateful working with him so far, he's truly, truly, an amazing mentor. Bob Proctor had a quote that I think really sums of Wes very well, a mentor is somebody that sees your talents and abilities maybe even better than you and helps bring them out of you. Working with Wes so far, that describes him to a "T" without a doubt. We're working right now on taking a lot of the potential that I have and making that actual through particular tasks each time that we work together and talk. For example, building out a website, creating content, without his kind of knowledge and expertise in these areas I probably would still be spinning my wheels right now. It is still a process, particularly for me, because I do tend to overthink, over-analyze, and make it more complicated than it is. But again Wes, bless his heart, he is so patient with me and at the same time very persistent. He'll work with me with where I'm at and at the same time he'll make sure we keep our eyes on the prize and get back on track. He's definitely one of the more balanced individuals that think I've ever met and that is something that I truly admire, in amazement about, you don't find too many people like that in the world. Either they can be a little bit high on the hyper masculine side and just so rigid or somewhere on the feminine side extreme where it's just kind of floating around aimlessly without any direction or purpose. I find myself on the feminine side of things at times. Again, working with Wes has been truly, truly a blessing because he's taking me where I'm at and he's assisting me in the process of finding that balance. This guy truly does walk his talk and that is something that I'm looking to incorporate into my own life. Once again I am very grateful that Wes is taking time out of his life, his days and his journey to assist me in that process and I know that once I reach that level, coaching, assisting other people, similar to how he is, the sky's the limit. I am super excited to see what the future holds working with Wes, I really feel as though we can do some great things together. That's what I have to say about Wes, amazing dude, I hope you all decide to work with him and I know it was one of the best decisions I've ever made in my life."

Greg Jacobsen


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