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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston: Adia Dawn Testimonial

Ten minutes into my first call with Wes I knew that I needed to work with him. I was in the process of starting my own coaching and consulting business. What really stood out to me was that he spoke with such confidence and intention. His energy was magnetic and there was this natural way of connecting in a short time. Wes is a truly genuine soul.

His perspective and awareness of spirituality have been such a blessing in my life. He does an amazing job of incorporating life and business coaching into a seamless guidance toward higher consciousness and greater overall life satisfaction.

I highly recommended Wes to anyone who is looking to expand their awareness of life and business. He will guide you, but also doesn't really DO anything. It's fascinating how he just helps lay the groundwork that allows you to find your path. Highly recommended!

Adia Dawn,

Austin, Texas


If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

Have a wonderful week everyone, keep sending me your success stories, I love hearing them.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


Are you ready for your Transformation? Click below to schedule your free consultation with Wes


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Sacrifice

Delaying gratification in today's world seems like a herculean task. At several points throughout the day you are faced with micro decisions of impulsivity or discipline. One of the first questions to ask yourself is Why should I consider delaying gratification?

This is a great question, and it deserves some serious attention since your future is riding on it.

Well it's quite simple on the surface, If you want to make things better in the future you make sacrifices today. You already know this, for instance if you want to become healthier it would be wise to choose a fruit or vegetable for lunch rather than fast food junk. The healthier food choice is for your future self that does not exist now, but will come into manifestation if the proper sacrifice is made consistently.   

Since we became self conscious we made a startling discovery... the FUTURE. The future is an incredible place filled with infinite possibilities of what you could become. Like any phenomena, there is always another side, the discovery of the future also holds the realization of your boundaries, limits and inescapable mortality. 

One question is... Are you willing to sacrifice your current self for your future self? Assuming you have set your ideals up properly and are aiming at a higher state than you currently reside, the answer is YES, yes you are willing, for that is the only way to make our difficult existence worthwhile. But here is one of the main reasons why you won't make the sacrifice, you don't have the ability to visualize a future ideal enough to get you to act and move toward it. You would rather take an actual and immediate treat at this very moment than two or more imaginary treats in the future.

Is sacrifice easy? No, it's one of the hardest things to do, which is why so few do it. Few are able to imagine a better future, put the steps together and actualize them day to day choice by choice, always making the choice for the future self rather than the immediate gratification of the current self today.

This is where discipline comes in, in fact discipline is wanting to do something now, but instead you forestall the immediate gratification and instead focus your resources on something you feel will bear fruit in the medium to long range future. Discipline is the ability to make consistent sacrifices day in and day out. By making today a little less impulsive you increase the likelihood of making tomorrow more secure and productive. This can be a choice you make for yourself or for your children. To use an example from my adolescence, most middle school kids have a difficult time forecasting and making a plan for the future. Instead, children are mainly focused on immediate gratification and led by impulsivity. My parents made a sacrifice for me and my future, they decided to remove me from a school district that was in the decline and send me to a private school that would set me up for a brighter future. To this day I thank them and I'm incredibly grateful, but I remember at the time I did not have the ability to see the future potential of what the change offered, instead I was focused on my current friends and the removal of the structure I had set up.

Sacrifice for the sake of sacrificing won't stick, it needs to be aimed at a goal or an ideal. This is where the imagination and inner vision is extremely important, WHAT IS IT YOU WANT EXACTLY? To begin with it needs to be obtainable. Not too easy where little to no effort is needed but also not to extreme where the chance of failure is too high. Look at your daily routine, how much television you watch, what you eat and drink throughout the day consistently, where should you start? You are aware of 5, 10, 15, 20 things that you are doing each day that you shouldn't be. Pick one, the sacrifice will pay off, whether it's financial, nutritional, relationship based.

If you have any questions or would like to work one-on-one feel free to email me at wespinkston@gmail.com, have a wonderful week everyone.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach 


If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

Have a wonderful week everyone, keep sending me your success stories, I love hearing them.


Are you ready for your Transformation? Click below to schedule your free consultation with Wes


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Mastering Your Day

It’s another Monday morning… Exciting huh? How did you spend your weekend? What choices did you make? Are you an individual that enjoys the weekends but merely survives the week days?

A model that may be of use to you is simply viewing your life in single day chunks. Today you will be presented with several opportunities and choices, whether you are conscious of them or not. The choices you make will increase the chances that the same choice will be made tomorrow. If that same choice is made tomorrow then we most likely have a habit that is forming and burying into our daily program like a parasite. SO be veryyyyy careful and conscious about what you are doing, EVERY SECOND of EVERY Day for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE…

Some of my client’s in the beginning mention that being aware of every thought throughout the day is hard work, my response… ABSOLUTELY.

Some of the choices you will be presented with today are your food choices, your reactions in relation to external stimulation, what you do with your free time, the activities you indulge in before bed, the amount of water you drink, coffee you consume, the way you lift up or knock down the one’s around you based on your words and many others…

Do you go to work the same direction every day? Say the same thing to your spouse, eat the same breakfast, listen to the same music on the way to the office, enter the office the same way and say hi to the same people with the same statement. Is the only thing different about this day your outfit, making a selection of a few color combinations that are beginning to be a nuisance. Are you sitting at your desk at this moment thinking there has to be more… you don’t know how you know there is more but you KNOW, but have no idea how to get THERE.

Well you are right, there is more, more than you could even wrap your mind around, but do you have the courage and commitment to see if through. Do you think it’d be easy work to transform your life? This path will take ALL OF YOU at ALL TIMES. This has nothing to do with reading a self-help book for 10-minutes a week and occasionally ordering a salad in between the beers you are consuming.

I’m unable to go into all the details in one post, without the context of your personal situation I can only speak vaguely and leave it up to you to fill in the details.

I’d like to give you an assignment… I’d like you to write down on a word doc or on a piece of paper what you want out of this incredible opportunity and life you’ve been handed, do it now, write down exactly what you want.

Feel free to send it to me if you’d like, send it here: WesPinkston@gmail.com

Most of you won’t do that assignment but oh well, next thing I’d like you to do is to write down all your choices you make today. Consider this self-observation, rather than sleep walking through your day be aware of what you are doing and the choices you are making. Breaking the attachment with the act of doing and observing the do’er and the doing from an awareness outside both. Since most of us are highly habitual you will notice how difficult doing anything novel and different is. To do something new, to break a habitual daily pattern is your will, and unless it is used often like a muscle it will atrophy and be useless over time.

By using your power of observation and will you can master your day. This is all you need to do, master your 24 hours, every decision, ever thought, every action. If you can master your day, and do this day-in and day-out consistently your life will begin to change. You can never go back though to the lazy days though, the soft routine days of sleep walking. If you are to begin, this needs to maintained forever, full focus and concentration. This is why 987 out of 1,000 won’t continue down this path. It’s not a secret path, it’s not occult or esoteric, it’s right here in front of you, in plain day-light. This is the answer to the scratch within you that you can never seem to itch.

More Money? Nope, that won’t scratch it. A Beautiful Girlfriend/Boyfriend? Nope, that won’t scratch it. A New Car? House? Traveling? A Book? Nope, Nope, Nope, Nope.

It’s YOU. Stop delaying your work.

For any change to occur you need to stay with it forever, there is no stopping, there is no destination. Increasing your intelligence is never complete, maintaining your body is never complete, you need to do it every day, FOREVER.

This is THE SECRET

Being 100% responsible for every choice and action you take for the rest of your life. It makes no difference which mind liberation and self transformation school you check in to from the oriental to the occidental, the secret is hard word every day and every second.

Most of us are pulled around by our socially created expectations and animalistic desires all day. We choose food based on pleasure rather than consuming nutritious food because our stomach let’s us know it’s time. We are on our phones aimlessly consuming content without any courage to create our own. We are controlled by our sexual desires and have no idea on how to cool that part of us off. We have surface level conversations and complain about this and that, a fully disempowered day and existence.

Did you think you needed a Teacher? A Guru?

Nope! That’s just another excuse we create so that we don’t have to make a move, so we can stay in the soft and comfortable boring zone. Listen to the way you speak to yourself, is it empowered direction or disempowered retreat talk. Listen! You are in the position you are in because of you, no one else, and it’s up to you to get yourself out. Do not focus on the external environment, that’s utterly pointless. It’s an inner battle you have been putting off, it’s ALL in YOUR MIND.

YOU Are The Guru AND The Student

You have far more power than you realized, we just don’t put it to use. Your power is in your reaction to each situation, your breathing at every moment, the expectations you hold yourself to that YOU created rather than blindly excepted based on your upbringing and culture, your understanding of language, of balancing the masculine and the feminine qualities about you, in every conscious food and water choice, in becoming ALL YOU ARE CAPABLE OF.

You have had the power all along, you just never realized it… your external environment is directing your life rather than you setting your own course.

Are you going to start charting your own course today?

If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

Have a wonderful week everyone, keep sending me your success stories, I love hearing them.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


Are you ready for your Transformation? Click below to schedule your free consultation with Wes


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Communication Breakdown

Does it ever feel like you aren’t speaking the same language as anyone else?

Well… you aren’t. So take a deep breath, your senses haven’t let you down.

One of the most important foundational pieces of any relationship/connection is communication.

Well… What IS communication?

As I’ve looked deeper into the waters of communication I was astounded at what I failed to notice all these years even though I participate in language on a daily basis. Now that I realize what communication is mainly comprised of it does not surprise me to see the difficulty we are having with one another and the social issues at large.

Please note, this is a brief over-simplified blog post about communication, I’ve left quite a bit out that I’ll cover in future posts.

Communication comes in many forms, verbal and non verbal, but for this blog post I would like to focus on the verbal and linguistic form.

The mere act of verbal communication is hardly understood. It’s nothing short of magical that I’m able to almost instantaneously retrieve experiences from my memory (content) and unconsciously put them in a syntactical sequence using symbolic metaphors (context) with little effort so that you understand what I mean. Weird huh?

Daily, I make small mouth noises which travel across space vibrationally, these vibrations enter the listener’s ear, almost instantaneously they draw from their cultural dictionary (similar to a google search) apply meaning to the word and agree that we are on the same page of understanding.

This magic happens so fast that we rarely pay attention to it. Even though we are using the same words as one another, the meanings often differ greatly along with the understandings.

One of the main enemies of clear communication is noise. I’m defining noise in this blog post as distractions, background noise, speech impediments, foreign accents AND the most common one is Semantic Noise. Noise seems to always find a way into any channel of communication, no matter how tightly “sealed” and protected.

An example of Semantic Noise would take place after an abstract statement like: “Wes likes fish.”

One listener may interpret (infuse their own meaning into the word) “Wes likes fish” as in he enjoys the taste of fish as a meal. While another listener may interpret the statement as he enjoys watching fish in an aquarium. Two interpretations that are far different from one another yet stem from the same statement.

Another example would be the following “Sarah hurt me.”

One listener may interpret this as Sarah emotionally hurt my feelings while another individual in the group may interpret the statement as she physically hurt me.

Although we use the same english words for the most part, their meanings differ greatly. Most of us understand this when we sit and reflect but often forget about it as we enter our hectic “daily grind” and confusion. The understandings differ greatly because the meanings are created on an individual basis based on that specific person’s experiences. The words themselves don’t mean anything at all, they are just their to differentiate one “thing” from another and aid in the google search of the mind. The word “Dog” has no meaning whatsoever until the meaning is infused into it on an individual neuro- semantic basis from experience. The word “Dog” may make you think of your current dog while someone else upon hearing the word “Dog” may trigger a terrible experience they encountered when a dog chased them when they were young. It’s the same word but infinite meanings are infused into it based on the individual and their own unique experiences.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

Have a wonderful week everyone, keep sending me your success stories, I love hearing them.


Are you ready for your Transformation? Click below to schedule your free consultation with Wes


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Attention on Attention

Information consumes attention, Hence a wealth of information creates a poverty of attention – Herbert Simon

Before anything of significance can be accomplished with my clients and I, we will need focus, concentration, attention, the will, whatever name you want to call it.

This is THE starting point, before we take any steps down the path of creating the life experiences we would like to enjoy, we will need our undivided attention toward our vision.

Sounds simple right? This shouldn’t surprise anyone…

Most of you are aware that there is a wide spectrum of attention, from simply noticing another individual, to tuning into someone, all the way to compassion and empathy toward another individual and the attempt to understand the world they perceive.

If we have time constraints, we will more than likely just notice different phenomena throughout our day, rather than the more time consuming endeavors of attention like tuning in and compassion. If we never notice the potential depths in these events throughout our day, we never even go down the road of empathy and compassion.

I think we would all agree that attention today is under attack.  This is quite apparent for me these days as I spend time with friends, family and loved ones, everyone is quite distracted with their phones and other devices. Everything seems to be competing for our attention. An obvious example for me is when I go to post something on social media, I find myself at times on a completely random tangent five minutes later, completely off course from my original objective. The incredible tools we use to connect with the global village, for instance our phones and computers, are also in the game of grabbing our attention and seducing us, it’s a double edge sword.

It’s time to reclaim our focused attention and direct it towards our vision. We have to be mindful and turn our attention on our attention. If we notice we are getting off track too often when using our computers or phones, even television, we need to set hard limits for ourselves and stick to them. The lights and sounds literally place you in a trance so be aware of this prior to engaging in the digital theatre with such devises.

Focused attention takes energy, like any action. Each choice we make is either getting us closer or further away from creating the life we see for ourselves. The average individual gets distracted 6-10 times a minute, which is staggering. Holding our attention is difficult, it’s energy draining, that’s why we need to consciously engage and then disengage to replenish our energy reserves.

I highly recommend to each of my clients they disengage from work or a particular project every 60-90 minutes. After the 60-90 minute mark mistakes happen much more often and we begin to lose our natural flow state. View your day as a collection of short sprints rather than a long linear marathon. After the 60-90 minute sprint that is free from distractions, my clients have found it helpful to go for a quick walk around the office to regroup and to relax the muscle of attention. This disengaged activity lets the mind gather information creatively without putting the rigid structure on your attention.

The wandering mind allows us the freedom to make connections between remote elements in a new and novel way. Once we begin to see, feel and/or hear these new connections and patterns with the relaxed mind, we will need to call on our focused attention to make it a reality.

Direct your attention on what you are directing your attention to each and every moment. Every day we have the opportunity to take one more step toward or away from our vision. The magic of your day is in your daily routine, what you care about, what you believe deserves your attention. Take an inventory today of the activities and other phenomena you are directing your attention toward. Don’t focus on hitting home runs, just hit singles choice by choice, word by word, thought by thought, and you will notice 24 hours is a long time if we are directing our attention wisely. Are you in control of your attention?

Attention has become a rare commodity, but it’s a very precious commodity and magic occurs when used properly.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

Have a wonderful week everyone, keep sending me your success stories, I love hearing them.


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Bryan Dusseau testimonial for Wes Pinkston

"Wes is very knowledgeable, and gives off an energy that is contagious. It makes me stay in the moment and really reflect on myself." 

-Bryan Dusseau

Host of the Purpessence Podcast.


If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

Have a wonderful week everyone, keep sending me your success stories, I love hearing them.


Are you ready for your Transformation? Click below to schedule your free consultation with Wes


Stay in touch with Wes