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Meditation

If we continue to observe our mind over some time, we notice that it’s not always distracted and busy. For all of us, there are times when our minds become concentrated, sharp and clear. Perhaps we are doing a cross-word puzzle, playing a video game, reading a mystery story, cleaning the house or cooking. For some, it’s the simple tasks that engage us in ways that allow our mind to be composed and focused; for others, it’s complex problem solving.

Many times, however, the needs of others are what bring us to a state of sharp concentration. Whether it’s because we feel very secure with those we’re with or because we are functioning under conditions of extreme crisis, we find that in this state of intense concentration helpful insights arise on their own, as a function of our one-pointedness. In these experiences we meet a resource of remarkable potential. While we may be frustrated in not having access to it all the time, these experiences lead us to inquire whether there might be something we could do more regularly and formally to quiet the mind, strengthen its concentration, make available the deeper insights that often result, and bring them into closer attunement with the empathy and compassion of our heart. How immeasurably this might enhance our ability to help others.

Traditionally, one such way to begin this investigation is through meditation, systematically observing the mind itself and becoming more familiar with the ways in which we are denied the experience of full concentration. When we do this, with even a simple exercise like focusing our attention on our breath or on a candle flame, we begin to see that there is a continuous stream of thoughts going on all the time. Meditation may be frustrating if we think we can stop this process right away. We can’t. But by penetrating and observing it, we can free ourselves from being carried away by our thoughts.

Our thoughts are always happening. Much like leaves floating down a stream or clouds crossing the sky, they just keep coming. They arise in the form of sensations, feelings, memories, anticipations, and speculations. And they are all constantly calling for attention: Think of me.” “Notice me.” “Attend to me.” As each thought passes, either we attend to it or we don’t. While we can’t stop the thoughts themselves, we can stop our awareness from being snared by each one. If you are standing by a river and a leaf floats by, you have your choice of following the leaf with your eye or keeping your attention fixed in front of you. The leaf floats out of your line of vision. Another leaf enters… and floats by.

But as we stand on the bank of the river and the leaves float by, there is no confusion as to whether or not we are the leaves. Similarly, it turns out that there is a place in our minds from which we can watch our own mental images go by. We aren’t our thoughts any more than we are the leaves.

If we imagine that our mind is like the blue sky, and that across it pass thoughts as clouds, we can get a feel for that part of it which is other than our thoughts. The sky is always present; it contains the clouds and yet is not contained by them. So with our awareness. It is present and encompasses all our thoughts, feelings, and sensations; yet it is not the same as them. To recognize and acknowledge this awareness, with its spacious, peaceful quality, is to find a very useful resource within. We see that we need not identify with each thought just because it happens to occur. We can remain quiet and choose which thought we wish to attend to. And we can remain aware behind all these thoughts, in a state that offers an entirely new level of openness and insight.

Wes Pinkston,

Encinitas Life/Business Coach ❤️

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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston: Robyn Bailis Testimonial

"Working with Wes was a wonderful experience. He was patient with me as he taught me about social media and the need for using it in my business. I am 60 years old and have owned my fitness and wellness business since 1997. I desperately needed a business coach as well as someone to teach me how to use social media. He was incredibly knowledgeable and patient throughout the process. From logo design to setting up an instagram strategy for my venture, I felt very comfortable and empowered. If you are look looking for a business coach I give Wes 5 stars.   He is very professional and positive. I feel encouraged, instead of frustrated, with my  business and social media strategy. Thank you Wes.  I encourage you to click below and get your free consultation with Wes.”

 - Robyn Bailis

Founder of Center of Movement and Balance since 1997.

Encinitas, CA  


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Encinitas Life/Business Coach ❤️

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Your Feelings Are Never Wrong

The mystic is the one who feels that everything that happens is in some way harmonious, is in some way right, is in some way an integral part of the universe. Now when we translate that into the moral sphere, the sphere of human conduct, the equivalent is this…

There are no wrong feelings.

There may be wrong actions, in the sense of actions contrary to the rules of human communication. But the way you feel towards other people, loving, hating, etc., there aren’t any wrong feelings. So to try and force one’s feelings to be other than what they are is absurd, and further more, dishonest. The idea that there are no wrong feelings is an immensely threatening idea to people who are afraid to feel in any case. This is one of the peculiar problems of our culture. That we are terrified of our feelings, because they take off on their own. And we think if we give them any scope, and if we don’t immediately beat them down, they will lead us into all kinds of chaotic and destructive action. It’s so funny, that we, in our Western culture today say that kind of thing, we who do more chaotic and reckless kind of action than anybody ever did.

But if, for a change, we would allow our feelings, and look upon their comings and goings as something as beautiful and as natural and necessary as changes in the weather, the going of night and day, and of the four seasons, we would be at peace with ourselves. Because what is problematic for western man is not so much his struggles with other people, and their needs and their problems, as his struggles with his own feelings. With what he will allow himself to feel and what he won’t allow himself to feel. He is ashamed to feel really profoundly sad, so much so that he could cry. It is not manly to cry. He is ashamed to loathe somebody, because you are not supposed to hate people. He’s ashamed to be so overcome with the beauty of something, whether it be a natural landscape or a member of the opposite sex, that he goes out of his mind with this beauty. Because all that kind of thing is not being in control, not kind of having your hand on the wheel. But it is because we don’t go with that, that we are not in control.

That we try to pretend that our inner life is different. I think this is the most releasing thing that anybody can possibly understand. That your inner feeling is never wrong. That’s to say, what you feel, it is never wrong that you feel that way. It may not be a right guide to what you should do. In other words, if you feel that you hate someone intensely, it isn’t necessarily the right way of dealing with that feeling to go out and harm them. But it is right that you should have the feeling of hating, or of being sad, or frightened, terrified, whatever it is.

When a person comes to himself, he comes to be one with his own feeling. And that is the only way of being in a position to control it. It is in exactly this way that the sailor always keeps the wind in his sails. Whether he wants to sail with the wind or whether he wants to sail against the wind, he always uses the wind, he never denies the wind. Well it’s in exactly that same sense that a person has to keep going with his own feeling. Whether he wants to act as the feeling obviously suggests, or act in a different way, he has to keep the feeling with him, because that’s his own essential self. But when he attempts simply to sail against the wind, he’s lost himself. He’s become just a kind of empty mask, which hasn’t got any real life behind it, all it’s protestations of love and good-will are hollow.

What the mystic primarily feels is the divinity, the glory, of whatever it is. And when we apply that to the moral sphere, what IS, is what one feels genuinely. And this must always be admitted, always allowed. It doesn’t mean that we always are therefore compelled to act upon the basis of what we feel. That is to say, to kill the person we hate. Hatred does not necessarily lead to violence, it is unacknowledged hatred that leads to violence. Honest hatred can be expressed in much simpler ways. But the expression, the recognition, the acceptance of what is honestly felt, is the moral equivalent of the vision that whatever exists is a manifestation of the divine.

Wes Pinkston,

Encinitas, CA.

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If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston: Adia Dawn Testimonial

Ten minutes into my first call with Wes I knew that I needed to work with him. I was in the process of starting my own coaching and consulting business. What really stood out to me was that he spoke with such confidence and intention. His energy was magnetic and there was this natural way of connecting in a short time. Wes is a truly genuine soul.

His perspective and awareness of spirituality have been such a blessing in my life. He does an amazing job of incorporating life and business coaching into a seamless guidance toward higher consciousness and greater overall life satisfaction.

I highly recommended Wes to anyone who is looking to expand their awareness of life and business. He will guide you, but also doesn't really DO anything. It's fascinating how he just helps lay the groundwork that allows you to find your path. Highly recommended!

Adia Dawn,

Austin, Texas


If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

Have a wonderful week everyone, keep sending me your success stories, I love hearing them.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston - Actualizing your highest potential

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Wes Pinkston is an Award-Winning Life Coach in Encinitas, CA. At the age of 29, a profound inner transformation radically changed the course of his life. He is now devoted to understanding, integrating and deepening that transformation, which has marked the beginning of an intense inward journey.

As a guide, Wes assists others in entering into an enhanced awareness of self and environment. This altered perception serves as a gateway, which if entered, facilitates a crucial transformation. The outcome of this is directed by the uniqueness of the individual and their willingness to pursue whatever unfolds.

Wes assists with the expansion of his client's personal potential, leading to the achievement of greater fulfillment in their life. With his guidance and support, the client is able to access and walk their true path.

His techniques create an enabling foundation which supports a self-sustaining guidance and growth mechanism. Thus he continually supports self-empowerment. Wes emphasizes the development and necessity of a clear connection to body awareness. The physical body is a resource uniquely tuned to act as a vehicle for the development of personal power – the force that drives and guides one to manifest a life with purpose and meaning.

Since the inception of his Life Coaching practice in Encinitas, he has accumulated over 2,000 hours of one-on-one coaching and has become one of the most recognized, respected and reputable life coaches in the city.


The original audio was recorded on the Nothing To Lose Podcast and can be found here: https://anchor.fm/nothing-to-lose/epi... Thank you for the interview Tony :)


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Have a wonderful week everyone, keep sending me your success stories, I love hearing them.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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Intuition

One of the most common questions I’m asked is “what is intuition and how does it work?”

This is one of the most difficult and controversial questions for many reasons that I will get into…

It appears to me that intuition is a feeling into things. In a way “it” guides us to answers and seems to leave no trail. In other words, we arrive at an answer without a formal explanation. You have it, but you haven’t the argument for it. Its power seems to reside in its truthfulness more than anything else.

The power of intuition lies in its ability to express truth

We first derive a notion of the essence of intuition in the obscure oriental doctrines of taoism which seems to point towards a direct experience of the nature of things, also known as intuition in the occidental mind.

Being in the Tao, or the flow of nature, seems to be the ability to sense the constraints and opportunities in the moment and act through it.

Often, when the topic of Intuition is brought up it’s main descriptions are commonly expressed as

1) Vague

2) Feminine

3) Unreliable

Yet, a closer look at our lives on a daily basis will illustrate quite the opposite.

We use words like “hunch” which also imply a sort of feeling into things and making a decision, although many of us “believe” we are acting logically, our actions, if studied carefully, show quite the contrary in many situations.

What is the threshold of having enough data to make a decision? There is always a moment when you wrap it up and move forward, there is no rule book for needing this amount of info before making a decision, it’s always a hunch or intuitively arrived at.

Even though there is this bias towards rationalism which has permeated through our culture for the last couple hundred years our experience with reality shows a different experience.

In fact, in the felt domain of immediate experience called “living,” intuition is how most of us, even the most self defined as “non-intuitional” are operating. Intuition is a kind of field processing of both the foreground and the background of experience, it’s a gestalt understanding that is subliminal and that leads the whole organism through an invisible set of doors, towards the maximizing of some sort of a goal.

When we approach the phenomena of intuition with rationalistic and reductionary tools the result is similar to a sieve through water, always exceeding one’s grasp. The correct approach to this shy and delicate magic known as intuition is to understand it with the tools of night logic, known as dream.

Dreams do not follow the forward and linear movement that our nervous system seems to create during the day. In the attempt to understand dream (feminine night logic) with the tools of the rationalistic and masculine tools is to miss the point and remain unsatisfied with the end result. You must change your approach, and meet the magic of intuition where it wants rather than attempting to fit it into a nice and neatly organized rational and reductionistic box. With this approach, we flatten out the most exciting and mysterious aspects of life, and we wonder where all the magic in our life has gone, we’ve neglected it with our logical and rational tools, but not too worry, her presence is always one thought away and she is quite patient…

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

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Sacrifice

Delaying gratification in today's world seems like a herculean task. At several points throughout the day you are faced with micro decisions of impulsivity or discipline. One of the first questions to ask yourself is Why should I consider delaying gratification?

This is a great question, and it deserves some serious attention since your future is riding on it.

Well it's quite simple on the surface, If you want to make things better in the future you make sacrifices today. You already know this, for instance if you want to become healthier it would be wise to choose a fruit or vegetable for lunch rather than fast food junk. The healthier food choice is for your future self that does not exist now, but will come into manifestation if the proper sacrifice is made consistently.   

Since we became self conscious we made a startling discovery... the FUTURE. The future is an incredible place filled with infinite possibilities of what you could become. Like any phenomena, there is always another side, the discovery of the future also holds the realization of your boundaries, limits and inescapable mortality. 

One question is... Are you willing to sacrifice your current self for your future self? Assuming you have set your ideals up properly and are aiming at a higher state than you currently reside, the answer is YES, yes you are willing, for that is the only way to make our difficult existence worthwhile. But here is one of the main reasons why you won't make the sacrifice, you don't have the ability to visualize a future ideal enough to get you to act and move toward it. You would rather take an actual and immediate treat at this very moment than two or more imaginary treats in the future.

Is sacrifice easy? No, it's one of the hardest things to do, which is why so few do it. Few are able to imagine a better future, put the steps together and actualize them day to day choice by choice, always making the choice for the future self rather than the immediate gratification of the current self today.

This is where discipline comes in, in fact discipline is wanting to do something now, but instead you forestall the immediate gratification and instead focus your resources on something you feel will bear fruit in the medium to long range future. Discipline is the ability to make consistent sacrifices day in and day out. By making today a little less impulsive you increase the likelihood of making tomorrow more secure and productive. This can be a choice you make for yourself or for your children. To use an example from my adolescence, most middle school kids have a difficult time forecasting and making a plan for the future. Instead, children are mainly focused on immediate gratification and led by impulsivity. My parents made a sacrifice for me and my future, they decided to remove me from a school district that was in the decline and send me to a private school that would set me up for a brighter future. To this day I thank them and I'm incredibly grateful, but I remember at the time I did not have the ability to see the future potential of what the change offered, instead I was focused on my current friends and the removal of the structure I had set up.

Sacrifice for the sake of sacrificing won't stick, it needs to be aimed at a goal or an ideal. This is where the imagination and inner vision is extremely important, WHAT IS IT YOU WANT EXACTLY? To begin with it needs to be obtainable. Not too easy where little to no effort is needed but also not to extreme where the chance of failure is too high. Look at your daily routine, how much television you watch, what you eat and drink throughout the day consistently, where should you start? You are aware of 5, 10, 15, 20 things that you are doing each day that you shouldn't be. Pick one, the sacrifice will pay off, whether it's financial, nutritional, relationship based.

If you have any questions or would like to work one-on-one feel free to email me at wespinkston@gmail.com, have a wonderful week everyone.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach 


If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

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Mastering Your Day

It’s another Monday morning… Exciting huh? How did you spend your weekend? What choices did you make? Are you an individual that enjoys the weekends but merely survives the week days?

A model that may be of use to you is simply viewing your life in single day chunks. Today you will be presented with several opportunities and choices, whether you are conscious of them or not. The choices you make will increase the chances that the same choice will be made tomorrow. If that same choice is made tomorrow then we most likely have a habit that is forming and burying into our daily program like a parasite. SO be veryyyyy careful and conscious about what you are doing, EVERY SECOND of EVERY Day for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE…

Some of my client’s in the beginning mention that being aware of every thought throughout the day is hard work, my response… ABSOLUTELY.

Some of the choices you will be presented with today are your food choices, your reactions in relation to external stimulation, what you do with your free time, the activities you indulge in before bed, the amount of water you drink, coffee you consume, the way you lift up or knock down the one’s around you based on your words and many others…

Do you go to work the same direction every day? Say the same thing to your spouse, eat the same breakfast, listen to the same music on the way to the office, enter the office the same way and say hi to the same people with the same statement. Is the only thing different about this day your outfit, making a selection of a few color combinations that are beginning to be a nuisance. Are you sitting at your desk at this moment thinking there has to be more… you don’t know how you know there is more but you KNOW, but have no idea how to get THERE.

Well you are right, there is more, more than you could even wrap your mind around, but do you have the courage and commitment to see if through. Do you think it’d be easy work to transform your life? This path will take ALL OF YOU at ALL TIMES. This has nothing to do with reading a self-help book for 10-minutes a week and occasionally ordering a salad in between the beers you are consuming.

I’m unable to go into all the details in one post, without the context of your personal situation I can only speak vaguely and leave it up to you to fill in the details.

I’d like to give you an assignment… I’d like you to write down on a word doc or on a piece of paper what you want out of this incredible opportunity and life you’ve been handed, do it now, write down exactly what you want.

Feel free to send it to me if you’d like, send it here: WesPinkston@gmail.com

Most of you won’t do that assignment but oh well, next thing I’d like you to do is to write down all your choices you make today. Consider this self-observation, rather than sleep walking through your day be aware of what you are doing and the choices you are making. Breaking the attachment with the act of doing and observing the do’er and the doing from an awareness outside both. Since most of us are highly habitual you will notice how difficult doing anything novel and different is. To do something new, to break a habitual daily pattern is your will, and unless it is used often like a muscle it will atrophy and be useless over time.

By using your power of observation and will you can master your day. This is all you need to do, master your 24 hours, every decision, ever thought, every action. If you can master your day, and do this day-in and day-out consistently your life will begin to change. You can never go back though to the lazy days though, the soft routine days of sleep walking. If you are to begin, this needs to maintained forever, full focus and concentration. This is why 987 out of 1,000 won’t continue down this path. It’s not a secret path, it’s not occult or esoteric, it’s right here in front of you, in plain day-light. This is the answer to the scratch within you that you can never seem to itch.

More Money? Nope, that won’t scratch it. A Beautiful Girlfriend/Boyfriend? Nope, that won’t scratch it. A New Car? House? Traveling? A Book? Nope, Nope, Nope, Nope.

It’s YOU. Stop delaying your work.

For any change to occur you need to stay with it forever, there is no stopping, there is no destination. Increasing your intelligence is never complete, maintaining your body is never complete, you need to do it every day, FOREVER.

This is THE SECRET

Being 100% responsible for every choice and action you take for the rest of your life. It makes no difference which mind liberation and self transformation school you check in to from the oriental to the occidental, the secret is hard word every day and every second.

Most of us are pulled around by our socially created expectations and animalistic desires all day. We choose food based on pleasure rather than consuming nutritious food because our stomach let’s us know it’s time. We are on our phones aimlessly consuming content without any courage to create our own. We are controlled by our sexual desires and have no idea on how to cool that part of us off. We have surface level conversations and complain about this and that, a fully disempowered day and existence.

Did you think you needed a Teacher? A Guru?

Nope! That’s just another excuse we create so that we don’t have to make a move, so we can stay in the soft and comfortable boring zone. Listen to the way you speak to yourself, is it empowered direction or disempowered retreat talk. Listen! You are in the position you are in because of you, no one else, and it’s up to you to get yourself out. Do not focus on the external environment, that’s utterly pointless. It’s an inner battle you have been putting off, it’s ALL in YOUR MIND.

YOU Are The Guru AND The Student

You have far more power than you realized, we just don’t put it to use. Your power is in your reaction to each situation, your breathing at every moment, the expectations you hold yourself to that YOU created rather than blindly excepted based on your upbringing and culture, your understanding of language, of balancing the masculine and the feminine qualities about you, in every conscious food and water choice, in becoming ALL YOU ARE CAPABLE OF.

You have had the power all along, you just never realized it… your external environment is directing your life rather than you setting your own course.

Are you going to start charting your own course today?

If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

Have a wonderful week everyone, keep sending me your success stories, I love hearing them.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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Communication Breakdown

Does it ever feel like you aren’t speaking the same language as anyone else?

Well… you aren’t. So take a deep breath, your senses haven’t let you down.

One of the most important foundational pieces of any relationship/connection is communication.

Well… What IS communication?

As I’ve looked deeper into the waters of communication I was astounded at what I failed to notice all these years even though I participate in language on a daily basis. Now that I realize what communication is mainly comprised of it does not surprise me to see the difficulty we are having with one another and the social issues at large.

Please note, this is a brief over-simplified blog post about communication, I’ve left quite a bit out that I’ll cover in future posts.

Communication comes in many forms, verbal and non verbal, but for this blog post I would like to focus on the verbal and linguistic form.

The mere act of verbal communication is hardly understood. It’s nothing short of magical that I’m able to almost instantaneously retrieve experiences from my memory (content) and unconsciously put them in a syntactical sequence using symbolic metaphors (context) with little effort so that you understand what I mean. Weird huh?

Daily, I make small mouth noises which travel across space vibrationally, these vibrations enter the listener’s ear, almost instantaneously they draw from their cultural dictionary (similar to a google search) apply meaning to the word and agree that we are on the same page of understanding.

This magic happens so fast that we rarely pay attention to it. Even though we are using the same words as one another, the meanings often differ greatly along with the understandings.

One of the main enemies of clear communication is noise. I’m defining noise in this blog post as distractions, background noise, speech impediments, foreign accents AND the most common one is Semantic Noise. Noise seems to always find a way into any channel of communication, no matter how tightly “sealed” and protected.

An example of Semantic Noise would take place after an abstract statement like: “Wes likes fish.”

One listener may interpret (infuse their own meaning into the word) “Wes likes fish” as in he enjoys the taste of fish as a meal. While another listener may interpret the statement as he enjoys watching fish in an aquarium. Two interpretations that are far different from one another yet stem from the same statement.

Another example would be the following “Sarah hurt me.”

One listener may interpret this as Sarah emotionally hurt my feelings while another individual in the group may interpret the statement as she physically hurt me.

Although we use the same english words for the most part, their meanings differ greatly. Most of us understand this when we sit and reflect but often forget about it as we enter our hectic “daily grind” and confusion. The understandings differ greatly because the meanings are created on an individual basis based on that specific person’s experiences. The words themselves don’t mean anything at all, they are just their to differentiate one “thing” from another and aid in the google search of the mind. The word “Dog” has no meaning whatsoever until the meaning is infused into it on an individual neuro- semantic basis from experience. The word “Dog” may make you think of your current dog while someone else upon hearing the word “Dog” may trigger a terrible experience they encountered when a dog chased them when they were young. It’s the same word but infinite meanings are infused into it based on the individual and their own unique experiences.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

Have a wonderful week everyone, keep sending me your success stories, I love hearing them.


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Getting tangled up in the web of Language

Anyone who has spent considerable time attempting to answer any of the great metaphysical questions of life soon begins to reach a stage of frustration. The answer seems to always extend just out of one’s reach. We either stop asking the question entirely and resume our regular days or try an alternative approach, still coming to the point of frustration although the linguisitc metaphors have been changed.

This type of semantic hide and seek can be maddening for an individual…

“Of which we cannot speak we have to remain silent.”

-Wittgenstein

For whatever reason, we can not remain silent, we keep attempting new ways to approach the answers but with the same tool every time, language.

This tool of dualistic language is precisely the sword we needed to get us to this stage of evolution BUT also prevents us from entering the room of the miraculous experience.

For us Westerner’s habitually using language we experience cognitive dissonance when we come across anything that seems ambiguous.

WE NEED CLEAR INFORMATION – the western mind

What do I do? I need advice! Be clear, What is my calling? Am I on the right path? I have to do something, but what!? Do I do this? Yes or No?

These types of thought processes create infinite paradoxes for the individual and can make people a little mad and frustrated…

The ultimate nature of reality transcends language. How is this so? The very nature of language is to discriminate one thing from the other, the act of discriminating one thing from the other is what allows us to project our meaning into one particular “thing” rather than another. But the meaning is not in the object, it’s in our mind that is projected into the object. A lamp can be seen as irrelevant to one person and a priceless family heirloom to another, although it “appears to be” the same lamp.

Meaning exists no where outside the individual, to have meaning you need an individual to discriminate an object from another, a word from another word, and create the meaning within themselves which is then projected out. We pretend to attach our words to our perceptions. We have been culturally conditioned to think with words.

Linguistics was vital in catalyzing our evolution but there will come a time where it can also hinder us on an individual and collective basis if we do not balance it with the nonverbal experience.

How do we enter into the realm of the nonverbal?

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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We Are All Greater Artists Than We Realize (Neuro-Relativity)

Who is the Master who makes the grass green?

– Dogen Zenji, 18th Century Zen Master

Dogen would ask all trainees this simple question… “Who is the Master who makes the grass green?”

The answer is as close as our visual cortex…

YOU!

Let me explain…

Although it may seem difficult to comprehend, we receive somewhere in the neighborhood of a billion signals every minute (this number seems to be growing higher and higher every year, just know it’s A LOT). Most of us have difficulty keeping track of more than three things at a time and there have been studies that show the average person loses their focus ten times a minute. (Hey! Pay Attention!) Let me repeat, you receive over a BILLION signals every minute, to consciously keep track of that many pieces of information would be pure chaos. In order to create order and make sense of the chaotic onslaught of billions of bits of information we use an amazing tool that reads all the other tools of our organism-as-a-whole. This tool is our nervous system, which is processing all the information being sent to us.

Every second of every day your eyes are being sent information, your ears, your skin, your nose etc. Just because the voice in your head may be focused on what you are going to say to the beautiful guy/girl in class, does not mean the rest of your organism isn’t taking care of (processing) everything else, to be honest I wouldn’t want to be in charge of my breathing, bathroom breaks, food digestion, blood circulation, I’d probably forget all too often and then die, so it’s best it’s left to a more reliable companion, this companion, is your nervous system.

You are not made up of a whole bunch of pieces like Frankenstein, going forward, or at least for this blog post, you need to view yourself as one organism, the organism-as-a-whole, not the sum of a bunch of parts, it’s ALL ONE THING. Every evaluation that is being made is an evaluation as a whole, what the voice in your brain thinks it’s controlling is merely a false dichotomy,

For an exercise, tell yourself you know the difference between a movie and real life. The movie is composed of actors, actresses, directors, producers, lights, camera, you get it…. Now go see a scary movie in your local theatre that are so popular. Tell yourself it’s just a movie and “not real” and see if you don’t grab the chair, flinch, get shortness of breath, look away… What your voice in your head thinks it controls is an illusion, your body will still get tense in the theatre even though you tell yourself in your head “It’s just a movie…. it’s just a movie…..”

EVERY EVALUATION YOU MAKE IS AN EVALUATION OF YOUR ENTIRE NERVOUS SYSTEM.

Our nervous system’s role is to receive, transmit and integrate signals and messages. While your conscious attention is focused on the act of reading these words, your nervous system is taking care of your blood flow, breathing, food digestion, filtering out harmful bacteria etc. The nervous system to this day appears to be a collection of many interlocking systems such as the immunological system, the endocrine system, the neuro-muscular system and so forth. All of these systems are in the process of computation, it’s a synergetic process on many levels and the messages are being sent up to the brain.

Your brain, the amazing bio-computer composed of One-Hundred Billion Neurons, receives the information from your nervous system and constructs a model of the world, which is then projected out. This model of the world, grid, reality tunnel, map, whatever term you’d like to use, is not objective reality, it’s your own personalized model/map that is being projected outwards. Read that last part again. The processing speed of your nervous system is so fast that we don’t notice it, and often never come to the realization that everything we come in contact with is not reality but our interpretation of reality.

The Map is NOT the Territory, meaning the model of the world your brain is creating from the signals it’s receiving from your nervous system, is not objective reality, but completely subjective. Or as Alan Wattsbeautifully stated “The Menu is NOT the Meal.” Everyone is using a different map to orient themselves around the environment, it’s no surprise why we have such difficulty communicating with one another and most of us feel misunderstood.

We are all greater artists than we realize

YOU are the master that makes the grass green, the green is not outside you, it’s in you, your visual cortex registers green from the environment, it does not exist outside “in the grass.”

Now that you know you are creating a model of the world and not viewing it from a completely objective lens, Click Here to read the next post using metaphors to illustrate how your mind works and how these maps we all create are acted out on a daily basis.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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The Thinker & The Prover

“All that we are is the result of all that we have thought. It is founded on thought. It is based on thought.”

-Buddha, The Dhammapada

William James,  the father of American Psychology, once told a story about an encounter with an older lady who believed the Earth rested on the back of a massive Turtle. Entering her model of reality, he kindly asked her, “Well what is holding up that turtle?” She responded quickly, “The Turtle is standing on the back of another turtle.” Before he could ask again she let him know, “It’s no use Dr. James, it’s Turtles allll the way down,”

Now before you label this lady as “delusional,” I think you’ll realize that ALL humans perceive their reality in the same fundamental manner, whether it’s Turtles or some other model of the world.

Dr. Leonard Orr once noted, the human mind behaves as if it were divided into two parts, the Thinker and the Prover.

The Thinker, the more complex of the two parts, can essentially think up anything. For example, depending on the time period, the Thinker can think that the universe is nothing to get excited about (Buddhism) or that the world is flat (Many Athletes seem to has this view these days.) The Thinker can think the cosmos is meaningless (Scientific Reductionists) or depending on the school of philosophy/religion that man is moral/immoral, mortal/immortal, or some combination of the two. The Thinker can also Think himself/herself sick and back to health, which the medical industry is still trying to figure out to this day.

This shouldn’t surprise anyone, it just simply shows that our instrument/tool for perceiving the world “outside,” our nervous system, has the ability to construct many types of maps depending on the time, culture, language and leadership for that specific environment.

I won’t go into detail in this blog post about what the Thinker is comprised of, but to provide some structure it appears to this day to be a combination of genetics, early imprinting, subsequent conditioning, and any new types of learning throughout the individual’s life (These are the main categories).

Now comes the fun part, the Prover. Now that you have your model for the world, the “map of the territory” as Alfred Korzybski artistically put it, you set out to Prove your model, to see if it works and makes you feel happy/secure. Whether you Prove this through the DeletionDistortion or Generalization of information (It’s always a combination of the three) you will attempt to Prove it is so.

For example, lets take the fun model of the world that some celebrities are adamant about, the Flat Earth Theory. Once this individual incorporates this belief into their map of the world, they will distort, delete and generalize information to Prove the world is flat. They do this without being conscious of it. On the other side of the model, his/her friends will distort, delete and generalize information to Prove their model, that the Earth is round and “floating” in space. What the Thinker thinks, the Prover Proves. This example seems to me to be the least abrasive, but as some of you connected the dots, any economic, political, religious or philosophical belief can be inserted above 

Many individuals are quick to point out how silly of a belief system others have, but do not realize that they, themselves, have constructed a model on the same basic principles.

Until you become WOKE AF, find enlightenment, satori, whatever your phrase is, which simply means you have been able to become aware of the distinction between your subjective map of the world and the objective territory itself, we will be in a continuous loop of dissatisfaction trying to fit the world into our model that we ourselves have created. If you haven’t noticed yet, this can not be done.

Most of the humans throughout the course of history Thought they had THE CORRECT MAP of the world and set out to Prove it, by whatever means they felt necessary, which sadly, is still going on today and is the source of most of the turmoil.

We can not operate without a model, but don’t forget, you have created the internal model yourself. So take some time to reflect on what your Thinking, and what you set out to Prove each day, or don’t, what do I know, this is just what I Think.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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Attention on Attention

Information consumes attention, Hence a wealth of information creates a poverty of attention – Herbert Simon

Before anything of significance can be accomplished with my clients and I, we will need focus, concentration, attention, the will, whatever name you want to call it.

This is THE starting point, before we take any steps down the path of creating the life experiences we would like to enjoy, we will need our undivided attention toward our vision.

Sounds simple right? This shouldn’t surprise anyone…

Most of you are aware that there is a wide spectrum of attention, from simply noticing another individual, to tuning into someone, all the way to compassion and empathy toward another individual and the attempt to understand the world they perceive.

If we have time constraints, we will more than likely just notice different phenomena throughout our day, rather than the more time consuming endeavors of attention like tuning in and compassion. If we never notice the potential depths in these events throughout our day, we never even go down the road of empathy and compassion.

I think we would all agree that attention today is under attack.  This is quite apparent for me these days as I spend time with friends, family and loved ones, everyone is quite distracted with their phones and other devices. Everything seems to be competing for our attention. An obvious example for me is when I go to post something on social media, I find myself at times on a completely random tangent five minutes later, completely off course from my original objective. The incredible tools we use to connect with the global village, for instance our phones and computers, are also in the game of grabbing our attention and seducing us, it’s a double edge sword.

It’s time to reclaim our focused attention and direct it towards our vision. We have to be mindful and turn our attention on our attention. If we notice we are getting off track too often when using our computers or phones, even television, we need to set hard limits for ourselves and stick to them. The lights and sounds literally place you in a trance so be aware of this prior to engaging in the digital theatre with such devises.

Focused attention takes energy, like any action. Each choice we make is either getting us closer or further away from creating the life we see for ourselves. The average individual gets distracted 6-10 times a minute, which is staggering. Holding our attention is difficult, it’s energy draining, that’s why we need to consciously engage and then disengage to replenish our energy reserves.

I highly recommend to each of my clients they disengage from work or a particular project every 60-90 minutes. After the 60-90 minute mark mistakes happen much more often and we begin to lose our natural flow state. View your day as a collection of short sprints rather than a long linear marathon. After the 60-90 minute sprint that is free from distractions, my clients have found it helpful to go for a quick walk around the office to regroup and to relax the muscle of attention. This disengaged activity lets the mind gather information creatively without putting the rigid structure on your attention.

The wandering mind allows us the freedom to make connections between remote elements in a new and novel way. Once we begin to see, feel and/or hear these new connections and patterns with the relaxed mind, we will need to call on our focused attention to make it a reality.

Direct your attention on what you are directing your attention to each and every moment. Every day we have the opportunity to take one more step toward or away from our vision. The magic of your day is in your daily routine, what you care about, what you believe deserves your attention. Take an inventory today of the activities and other phenomena you are directing your attention toward. Don’t focus on hitting home runs, just hit singles choice by choice, word by word, thought by thought, and you will notice 24 hours is a long time if we are directing our attention wisely. Are you in control of your attention?

Attention has become a rare commodity, but it’s a very precious commodity and magic occurs when used properly.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston: Victoria Watson testimonial

Working with Wes Pinkston has been a life changing experience both personally and professionally. He has helped me to fully manifest the marketing and business ideas within my mind. His clear communication and listening has enabled me to transcend my self created limitations and helped me to approach sales with my highest potential. His ability to zoom in to specific aspects of my system and bring clarity while also maintaining a zoomed out macro level perspective has been priceless. From the discovery process to the practical execution of my ideas Wes has been with me every step of the process with a truly knowledgeable and empathetic presence.

Victoria Watson

REALTOR

Coldwell Banker Quality Properties

Los Angeles, California


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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston: Sonya Gomez testimonial

I first met Wes about 8 months into opening up my Life Coaching business. At that time, I was very new to social media marketing, or business development in general. After just one meeting with Wes I was able to utilize techniques he had taught me to build my social media reputation which led to several consultations very quickly. Not only is Wes a great Business Coach, he is an amazing Life Coach. I leave every meeting with Wes with a paradigm shift having a whole new perspective on life.  Wes has a way of understanding and relating to my ever-expanding consciousness and spiritual journeys which makes me feel validated, understood, and always inspired! With his passion for life and unique interests, Wes is definitely one of a kind =)

Sonya Gomez,

San Diego Life Coach


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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston: Candice Wiggins testimonial

“Growing up with Wes, it was apparent from a young age he was destined for greatness. He has always been a leader in every sense of the word, especially regarding his passion and dedication for actualizing the potential of those around him. His message focused around empowering people and sharing the path to greatness across the globe is truly inspiring.”

- Candice Wiggins

WNBA Champion

WNBA Sixth Woman of the Year (2008)


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Robert Grasso testimonial for Wes Pinkston

Working with Wes Pinkston was an incredible experience, he effortlessly distilled the vision I had for my coaching practice and made it a reality online. He was with me step-by-step with crystal clear communication and leadership. If you are looking to bring your business online seamlessly while maintaining the unique value you offer, look no further than Wes.

Robert Grasso

Upper School History Department

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La Jolla Country Day School

9490 Genesee Avenue, La Jolla, CA 92037

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Bryan Dusseau testimonial for Wes Pinkston

"Wes is very knowledgeable, and gives off an energy that is contagious. It makes me stay in the moment and really reflect on myself." 

-Bryan Dusseau

Host of the Purpessence Podcast.


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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston: Jen Beron testimonial

"Working with Wes has been such an incredible experience. His listening and linguistic skills provided a relaxed and transparent environment to aid me in my endeavors. It's clear to see he is comfortable himself which allows me to be my authentic self in return."

Jen Beron

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Beverly Hills, California


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Encinitas Life Coach Wes Pinkston: Steven Kilgore testimonial

Working with Wes Pinkston has been a wonderful experience. From the moment I met with him to discuss where I was in my life and where I wanted to be, I knew something about him was exceptionally different. From our first session together over Skype my awareness began to expand and certain aspects of myself and others became more clear. Wes recognized resources within me that I was unaware of myself, and for that I'm truly grateful. It has been an incredible journey working with him and I'm very excited to see the actualized results.

Steven Kilgore

Century 21 Award Branch Manager, REALTOR

San Diego, California


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Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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