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Intuition

One of the most common questions I’m asked is “what is intuition and how does it work?”

This is one of the most difficult and controversial questions for many reasons that I will get into…

It appears to me that intuition is a feeling into things. In a way “it” guides us to answers and seems to leave no trail. In other words, we arrive at an answer without a formal explanation. You have it, but you haven’t the argument for it. Its power seems to reside in its truthfulness more than anything else.

The power of intuition lies in its ability to express truth

We first derive a notion of the essence of intuition in the obscure oriental doctrines of taoism which seems to point towards a direct experience of the nature of things, also known as intuition in the occidental mind.

Being in the Tao, or the flow of nature, seems to be the ability to sense the constraints and opportunities in the moment and act through it.

Often, when the topic of Intuition is brought up it’s main descriptions are commonly expressed as

1) Vague

2) Feminine

3) Unreliable

Yet, a closer look at our lives on a daily basis will illustrate quite the opposite.

We use words like “hunch” which also imply a sort of feeling into things and making a decision, although many of us “believe” we are acting logically, our actions, if studied carefully, show quite the contrary in many situations.

What is the threshold of having enough data to make a decision? There is always a moment when you wrap it up and move forward, there is no rule book for needing this amount of info before making a decision, it’s always a hunch or intuitively arrived at.

Even though there is this bias towards rationalism which has permeated through our culture for the last couple hundred years our experience with reality shows a different experience.

In fact, in the felt domain of immediate experience called “living,” intuition is how most of us, even the most self defined as “non-intuitional” are operating. Intuition is a kind of field processing of both the foreground and the background of experience, it’s a gestalt understanding that is subliminal and that leads the whole organism through an invisible set of doors, towards the maximizing of some sort of a goal.

When we approach the phenomena of intuition with rationalistic and reductionary tools the result is similar to a sieve through water, always exceeding one’s grasp. The correct approach to this shy and delicate magic known as intuition is to understand it with the tools of night logic, known as dream.

Dreams do not follow the forward and linear movement that our nervous system seems to create during the day. In the attempt to understand dream (feminine night logic) with the tools of the rationalistic and masculine tools is to miss the point and remain unsatisfied with the end result. You must change your approach, and meet the magic of intuition where it wants rather than attempting to fit it into a nice and neatly organized rational and reductionistic box. With this approach, we flatten out the most exciting and mysterious aspects of life, and we wonder where all the magic in our life has gone, we’ve neglected it with our logical and rational tools, but not too worry, her presence is always one thought away and she is quite patient…

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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Communication Breakdown

Does it ever feel like you aren’t speaking the same language as anyone else?

Well… you aren’t. So take a deep breath, your senses haven’t let you down.

One of the most important foundational pieces of any relationship/connection is communication.

Well… What IS communication?

As I’ve looked deeper into the waters of communication I was astounded at what I failed to notice all these years even though I participate in language on a daily basis. Now that I realize what communication is mainly comprised of it does not surprise me to see the difficulty we are having with one another and the social issues at large.

Please note, this is a brief over-simplified blog post about communication, I’ve left quite a bit out that I’ll cover in future posts.

Communication comes in many forms, verbal and non verbal, but for this blog post I would like to focus on the verbal and linguistic form.

The mere act of verbal communication is hardly understood. It’s nothing short of magical that I’m able to almost instantaneously retrieve experiences from my memory (content) and unconsciously put them in a syntactical sequence using symbolic metaphors (context) with little effort so that you understand what I mean. Weird huh?

Daily, I make small mouth noises which travel across space vibrationally, these vibrations enter the listener’s ear, almost instantaneously they draw from their cultural dictionary (similar to a google search) apply meaning to the word and agree that we are on the same page of understanding.

This magic happens so fast that we rarely pay attention to it. Even though we are using the same words as one another, the meanings often differ greatly along with the understandings.

One of the main enemies of clear communication is noise. I’m defining noise in this blog post as distractions, background noise, speech impediments, foreign accents AND the most common one is Semantic Noise. Noise seems to always find a way into any channel of communication, no matter how tightly “sealed” and protected.

An example of Semantic Noise would take place after an abstract statement like: “Wes likes fish.”

One listener may interpret (infuse their own meaning into the word) “Wes likes fish” as in he enjoys the taste of fish as a meal. While another listener may interpret the statement as he enjoys watching fish in an aquarium. Two interpretations that are far different from one another yet stem from the same statement.

Another example would be the following “Sarah hurt me.”

One listener may interpret this as Sarah emotionally hurt my feelings while another individual in the group may interpret the statement as she physically hurt me.

Although we use the same english words for the most part, their meanings differ greatly. Most of us understand this when we sit and reflect but often forget about it as we enter our hectic “daily grind” and confusion. The understandings differ greatly because the meanings are created on an individual basis based on that specific person’s experiences. The words themselves don’t mean anything at all, they are just their to differentiate one “thing” from another and aid in the google search of the mind. The word “Dog” has no meaning whatsoever until the meaning is infused into it on an individual neuro- semantic basis from experience. The word “Dog” may make you think of your current dog while someone else upon hearing the word “Dog” may trigger a terrible experience they encountered when a dog chased them when they were young. It’s the same word but infinite meanings are infused into it based on the individual and their own unique experiences.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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Attention on Attention

Information consumes attention, Hence a wealth of information creates a poverty of attention – Herbert Simon

Before anything of significance can be accomplished with my clients and I, we will need focus, concentration, attention, the will, whatever name you want to call it.

This is THE starting point, before we take any steps down the path of creating the life experiences we would like to enjoy, we will need our undivided attention toward our vision.

Sounds simple right? This shouldn’t surprise anyone…

Most of you are aware that there is a wide spectrum of attention, from simply noticing another individual, to tuning into someone, all the way to compassion and empathy toward another individual and the attempt to understand the world they perceive.

If we have time constraints, we will more than likely just notice different phenomena throughout our day, rather than the more time consuming endeavors of attention like tuning in and compassion. If we never notice the potential depths in these events throughout our day, we never even go down the road of empathy and compassion.

I think we would all agree that attention today is under attack.  This is quite apparent for me these days as I spend time with friends, family and loved ones, everyone is quite distracted with their phones and other devices. Everything seems to be competing for our attention. An obvious example for me is when I go to post something on social media, I find myself at times on a completely random tangent five minutes later, completely off course from my original objective. The incredible tools we use to connect with the global village, for instance our phones and computers, are also in the game of grabbing our attention and seducing us, it’s a double edge sword.

It’s time to reclaim our focused attention and direct it towards our vision. We have to be mindful and turn our attention on our attention. If we notice we are getting off track too often when using our computers or phones, even television, we need to set hard limits for ourselves and stick to them. The lights and sounds literally place you in a trance so be aware of this prior to engaging in the digital theatre with such devises.

Focused attention takes energy, like any action. Each choice we make is either getting us closer or further away from creating the life we see for ourselves. The average individual gets distracted 6-10 times a minute, which is staggering. Holding our attention is difficult, it’s energy draining, that’s why we need to consciously engage and then disengage to replenish our energy reserves.

I highly recommend to each of my clients they disengage from work or a particular project every 60-90 minutes. After the 60-90 minute mark mistakes happen much more often and we begin to lose our natural flow state. View your day as a collection of short sprints rather than a long linear marathon. After the 60-90 minute sprint that is free from distractions, my clients have found it helpful to go for a quick walk around the office to regroup and to relax the muscle of attention. This disengaged activity lets the mind gather information creatively without putting the rigid structure on your attention.

The wandering mind allows us the freedom to make connections between remote elements in a new and novel way. Once we begin to see, feel and/or hear these new connections and patterns with the relaxed mind, we will need to call on our focused attention to make it a reality.

Direct your attention on what you are directing your attention to each and every moment. Every day we have the opportunity to take one more step toward or away from our vision. The magic of your day is in your daily routine, what you care about, what you believe deserves your attention. Take an inventory today of the activities and other phenomena you are directing your attention toward. Don’t focus on hitting home runs, just hit singles choice by choice, word by word, thought by thought, and you will notice 24 hours is a long time if we are directing our attention wisely. Are you in control of your attention?

Attention has become a rare commodity, but it’s a very precious commodity and magic occurs when used properly.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


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The Art of Language

“The syntactical nature of reality, the real secret of magic, is that the world is made of words. And if you know the words that the world is made of, you can make of it whatever you wish.”

- Terence Mckenna

There is nothing more vital to one's life, one's experience, than the understanding of language. We see in words, hear in words, think in words, feel in words, EVERYTHING is language. Nothing can be achieved or manifested without words, without the ability to speak about our feelings/ideas/sensations/ intelligently. All day we swim in words, like a fish in water, many of us, like myself didn't truly realize the significance they had on my immediate experience with reality, until I was imprisoned by them. I imprisoned myself within words, but the beauty of the story is I've liberated myself with words. Until we become conscious of language and the machinery that it is, we can not use it as the transformational tool that it is, it is humanity's most prized achievement.

Like any tool, it solely depends on the user, the conscious being that "picks it up." Whether it is a pen or a paintbrush, some manifest masterpieces while others manifest more simple forms of expression. Before we use the tool that is language, it makes sense to be aware of it's power and potential, as well as consequences if used in a manner harmful to oneself or others. Any tool that has tremendous potentiality for actualizing ideas, must be used consciously.

From a very young age, we are thrown into a sea of words, swimming and treading words to stay afloat, language makes for an incredible tool, our greatest tool with nothing even close to it, but language makes for a terrible master. Don't be so TRUSTING of words, at all moments in the day, watching tv, talking to friends, listening to family members, reading articles, we are being conditioned. Until we cultivate a conscious bubble within ourselves we can rest in, that understands the machinery of language and how incredibly general it's assumptions are, we will always be told how it is, what to do, etc., the rhetoric of life. There is a world beyond words, and many of us paint over reality with a mosaic of words. Words, like any tool, can be over used, we need to know when to use words and when not too. Words remove the meaning and feelings from reality.

If I were to ask you to describe love... Listen to your words... See how poorly you are describing love. Reality is almost impossible to talk about, the feelings and emotions we feel at every given moment. You KNOW what love it, but when asked to describe it with words you find they just don't suffice. When you read and listen, when you are being conditioned by anyone, see PAST the words, and draw your own conclusions based on how you feel about the matter.

Stop tiling over reality with words, words most often than not ruin the moment, ruin the feeling, ruin the experience.

Love,

Wes Pinkston

Encinitas Life Coach


If you’d like to get started working with me One-on-One click here to schedule a free Life-Coaching Consultation. If you are in the San Diego area, mainly EncinitasCarlsbadDel MarLa Jolla and Solana Beach we can meet in person. For those of you out of state I provide Life Coaching over the phone and via skype. My plans are flexible and more information will be provided during our free consultation.

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